Suppose a man neglects an obligation and lies in order to attract a woman’s attention. If she never urged him to do so, her intention cannot be judged from his action. Responsibility for the lie and neglect belongs to the person who chose them.
The lesson is to guard against temptation, not to assert that every woman deliberately misleads others. Respect for women, protection of their rights, and personal accountability remain essential.
Speaking respectfully to someone for a legitimate purpose is not the same as committing wrongdoing to impress them. A sound reading preserves that distinction.