Connection, resemblance and agreement are not identical with being the same substance. A teacher’s ideas can shape a student’s thought without making teacher and student numerically one person. This example clarifies an ordinary logical distinction; it does not compare God’s essence to a human being.
When religious language uses strong expressions of intimacy or union, one must ask whether the intended relationship is figurative or relational or instead literal and ontological. The two are not interchangeable.
The discussion therefore has two stages: specify precisely which meaning the claimant intends, then determine whether the offered statements actually entail that meaning. This avoids both overreading words and dismissing an argument before understanding it.