«وَمَا تَجَاوَزْتُ إِذْ عَنِيتُ بِهِ»
I did not go beyond what was proper in handling it,
«حَدَّ التَّرَاضِي فَيَحْدُثَ الْغَضَبُ»
Beyond the bounds of mutual agreement so as to cause anger.
*Tarāḍī* is mutual consent; *tajāwuz* is overstepping a boundary. The husband’s defence turns on his assertion that he stayed within acceptable limits.
Because this conflicts with the wife’s distress, the court still needs to establish what agreement actually existed. A poem’s claim of consent is not proof of consent.